I have really, REALLY enjoyed the Secret Survey. I went away this week with my (amazing) sweetheart, and I had lots of opportunities to talk with him about things that you mentioned, including the information and insights into sex.
His responses were really interesting. He’s 54 years old (I’m 50), and he said that much of what I mentioned would have been at least somewhat true for him when he was younger, but he said that in the last 5 years (he also went through a harrowing divorce), his relation to sex has become a LOT more about emotional connection and slowing down the whole lovemaking process to be fully present and really “listen” through touch. I wonder if he’s unusual or that many (even most?) men become more that way as they get older? Anyway, I could not be more thrilled and honored to have such an amazing, smart, generous, loving, communicative man at my side. (He’s also a COMPLETE HUNK… but he says I’m exaggerating, so I’m glad he doesn’t know how hunky he is